Kentucky’s Kitchen Table is a project of Citizen and Self, a class in the Mahurin Honors College at Western Kentucky University. Students gather together friends, family, and neighbors to have conversations around the kitchen table about what matters to them and what it means to be part of a community. Here you can see some pictures from the shared dinners, and read about what people learn when they gather together for conversation about who we are and who we want to be.
My Kentucky Kitchen Table was held in Bowling Green, Kentucky on April 11, 2019. Our host was Elizabeth, and she offered her home to us and other students where we had a delicious meal and interesting conversation. Elizabeth is a professor at Western Kentucky University. Also present was another professor, Jennifer, who teaches history. Something I found very interesting was that she is actually from Canada, and she completed her graduate education in Kentucky. Also present was two students from my Honors 251 classes, Riley and Autumn. Riley is from close to my hometown and is also a biology major. Autumn is from Lawrenceburg and is studying Chinese history and culture. Also present was a graduate student here at WKU who is soon going to be moving to New York. She is from a rural area like me. Also, Elizabeth’s daughter, Victoria, was there as a guest at the table as well. Together, we all brought forth a variety of ideas and backgrounds that allowed me to receive many different viewpoints and perceptions I had never before thought about.
We started off by filling our plates and introducing ourselves. We had a delicious dinner, and I felt very much at home. Though some of us were familiar with each other from class, I did not know the other members. Introductions were made and then we started exploring each other’s backgrounds. I started off by asking if anyone grew up having regular family dinners like this at home. From this I learned more about each respective person at the table’s family dynamics and a little more about them. The graduate student spoke about how her and her mom would argue growing up, so family meals could be tense. She talked about how now, however, that had changed a lot since she left home. I discussed how growing up we always had regular meals but that changed as we grew up and got busier with our lives. We later got into a conversation discussing the recent turmoil at WKU involving the dean of Potter College. Jennifer seemed very proud of the way students stood up for what they believed in, and thought it showed how students really can incite change through peaceful protest and having their voice heard. I said how through my job at WKU as an Admission’s Ambassador how we have to handle such situations and that I was also proud of the university as a whole for actually taking student’s voices into consideration. After discussing this, we eventually moved into a discussion about citizenship, and talked about what it really means to be a good citizen. I thought that being a good citizen relates to being a good neighbor, and wanting better for those close to you. The graduate student spoke about how we should learn the problems of the community we are in, so then we may strive to fix the issue. Jennifer said something that really resonated with me, when she said we need to know the history of our communities, so we cannot repeat our past, and become better citizens in that way. Autumn discussed having compassion and love for those around us. What Victoria said really stuck with me as well. She said citizenship was about being fair. Sometimes I am amazed at how young minds can see the world so much like us, and it’s actually really beautiful. I think overall themes were compassion and knowledge. Through knowledge we can have more compassion, and through compassion be a better citizen.
During the conversation Jennifer asked each of us in the current Honors 251 class to say what we had learned. Riley talked about how his viewpoint changed surrounding the opioid crisis, specifically supervised addiction facilities. Jennifer was very pleased the class had that level of impact on him. I talked also about how my viewpoint of the opioid crisis changed, specifically after coming from a family who has very closed beliefs about addiction. I loved hearing perspectives from a faculty side as well, and also learned more insight into the graduate student’s life. She described how the dean of Potter actually funded her time in New York as well as learning she grew up in a similar environment to myself. Autumn brought a unique perspective to the table and talked about a more pessimistic viewpoint. Though all of our opinions about some things were different, it was really refreshing to be able to agree on some things and be exposed to new ideas, or ideas presented in a different way. I don’t get that very often and think it’s a great aspect of the Kentucky Kitchen Table.
Connecting to what we’ve read in class, I thought about what Jennifer said in relating to the importance of the history of an area. The reading “Green Fire, the Still Point, and an Oak Grove” encapsulates that perfectly. In the reading many students were protesting, but honestly had no idea what they were talking about or even what they are fighting for. Though passion is great, I think it goes back to the idea we discussed about passion without knowledge can be useless. I also thought about the reading in class that detailed solving problems through deliberation. Though our KKT wasn’t a deliberation exactly, it was a time where we discussed what’s behind a lot of wicked problems: what it means to be a good citizen. Though I don’t think we can solve major world issues by eating dinner together, I do think if we did this more often the world just might look a little different. Through our discussion of the dean situation at WKU, I also thought of central questions in the class. “How can we live better together” is one of those questions. I think it played out perfectly in that situation, where student voices were heard, and the problem seemingly solved. I was honestly really nervous before this dinner. Though I knew it was an assignment, I actually wanted to get something out of it and have a stimulating conversation. I was very pleased with how it worked out,and would love to get to know further the people I conversed with. It can be really difficult to have these conversations eve with people you have known for years. But, if you make it happen, you can have your eyes opened and your horizons broadened.
I “hosted” my Kentucky
Kitchen Table on April 6, 2019 in Bowling Green, Kentucky. I am not from
Bowling Green and neither were the attendees of my KKT. Therefore, we ate at
Mariah’s, a quiet restaurant in downtown Bowling Green. My friend Sarah and I
are in the same sorority and it was Mothers Weekend. Our moms and my mom’s
friends had traveled from the suburbs of St. Louis and Chicago and were ready
for a nice meal and discussion. On the left, is my mom. She lives in
Edwardsville, IL, which is where she grew up and attended university. She
considers herself to have lived a “white picket fence house” type of life, very
normal in a sense. Next to her is Irma, my mom’s friend. She grew up in New
Jersey and now lives in Edwardsville also. She grew up with five sisters and
had a rowdy childhood. She spends her days looking after and assisting a
disabled man in the community. Her and my mom met because they have similar
aged children who became friends in elementary school, and they have remained
friends through middle school. Next to Irma is Diana, Sarah’s mom, who I have
only met once before. Diana is from Gurnee, IL, about an eight-hour drive from
Bowling Green. She has three children who are attending three different
universities, all in the south. Her husband has a house near Florence, KY, and
she bounces between the universities visiting her children. Sarah is sitting
next to her mom on the right. She is a very funny, outgoing girl who always
stops strangers if they are walking a dog. She is a nursing major and is
constantly studying to keep her direct administration spot in WKU’s nursing
program. Next to Sarah in the right bottom side of the picture is Liz. She has
two sons who are age seven and one. Her and my mom met because their husbands
play in the same lake-community bags (cornhole) tournaments on Wednesday
nights. Liz is a stay at home mom but watches other children after school
throughout the day before their parents get home from work. Together, we all
brought a lot of diversity to the table and had different ideas about what
community and citizenship meant to us.
Beyond voting, paying
taxes and following laws, what does citizenship mean to you?
question established a lot of different answers. My mom answered first stating
that she believes citizenship consists of working together with other citizens
to create an enjoyable place to interact and grow. She included examples of the
lake community that we live. We have community clubs to help with landscape and
beach upkeep in the public areas of our community. The community also hosts
annual holiday related events that end up being traditions for most families
around the lake. They were started as a way help form bonds between neighbors
and community members. Some of these include the Fourth of July ski show, the
Easter egg hunt, and breakfast with Santa. Kelly mentioned that our
neighborhood would not be as enjoyable to live if she didn’t attend these
events as a newlywed with my dad to help meet people in their new neighborhood.
mom’s friend, Irma, added that citizenship means helping your neighbors,
coworkers, and friends in as many ways as you can. This was a response that I
expected from Irma. She has been taking care of Jeff, a disabled community
member, for the past few years. She does his grocery shopping, takes him to
doctor appointments, administers his medications, and keeps him company during
the day due to his lack of immediate family. She recognizes that Jeff would not
have the same quality of life if he didn’t have help from Irma every day. Irma
sees positive change in her surroundings when she is helping Jeff. Liz seconded
the point that Irma made about helping neighbors and friends in any way
possible. Liz watches her neighbor’s and friend’s kids after school to assist
working mom’s busy schedules. It makes her feel like an important member of her
community and is making a difference because she is assisting the people
closest to her.
had no experience with baby sitting or helping disabled citizens in her
neighborhood. However, she felt that my mom and her friends made a good point.
Sarah made a similar comment as my mom and added that citizenship means
creating a safe and supportive community for other citizens. She has always
lived in a safe neighborhood that had children running around and playing every
day after school or in the surrounding summer heat. Parents would never have to
worry about children being around unsafe community members or dangerous
strangers. Diana confirmed Sarah’s statement. She mentioned that she knew most
of her surrounding neighbors and felt comfortable letting her children play
with other kids around the neighborhood. She mentioned that the parents in the
neighborhood would often gather in somebody’s driveway to catch up and watch
over the rambunctious children.
of the responses had the same theme. They included creating a helpful and safe
community for everybody. This allows people to live and prosper in a positive
environment. It also creates a sense of pride in their community. This theme relates
to the first central question of our class: how can people live better
together? It is a hard question to answer, but the attendees of my Kentucky
Kitchen Table made it clear that it is a major priority in the sense of
citizenship. I think that people can learn by example. If just one person
begins to help their community members, like Liz and Irma, other people will
see the impact it creates. Ultimately, it could inspire others to help their
neighbors and fellow citizens. This would make it possible for more communities
to be like Diana’s, Sarah’s, my mom’s and my own.
perspective of community and citizen’s obligation to one another has changed
dramatically throughout this course. I used to believe that citizens had
absolutely no obligations towards one another. I thought that people just
simply did things out of the kindness of their heart and it did not affect the
community that much. However, I have changed after talking with the members of
my Kentucky Kitchen Table and specifically the case study about the little boy
who was saved by a bystander after he fell into a pond. As citizens we are obligated
to help each other. We are obligated to be a good person. We are obligated to
create a safe environment for others. Without any obligations and expectations
for citizens, the world would be such a hostile place.
This past Sunday, April 14th, 2019, I had the loveliest experience hosting a Kentucky Kitchen table of my own in Bowling Green, Kentucky. I was accompanied by four women named Kylee, Claire, Izzy, and Margee. Kylee is girl I met through my sorority. She is a special education major from St. Louis that came to Western Kentucky University to get away from everything she knew. She upholds Christian values and practices and takes on a more conservative political approach. Claire is a friend of a friend, from Murray, Kentucky and finds comfort in calm quietness. She recently changed her major from art studies to International affairs and admits to a mid-college life crisis. Izzy is my dorm roommate from Bowling Green. She is loud and spunky and very opinionated. She is Agnostic and very liberal. Margee is a friend of a friend that I was do not know well. She enjoys intentional conversations, bible study, and helping others. Her good heart shines through everything she says and does. As for me, Alli, I’d describe myself as a student from Louisville who is far too obsessed with animals, and really doesn’t care for children, but you would probably never guess it. I consider myself moderately liberal, atheist, and someone constantly trying to change the stigma around liberal atheists.
I described this event as a potluck with no theme and encouraged everyone to bring something random and tasty. With that being said, we had a delicious meal of buttered noodles, pepperoni bagel bites, pear halves, and green beans. We all laughed at the odd but delicious combination of food and quickly applied our current situation to citizenship. I brought to attention how our current table represents how each of us bring something different to the table as citizens. Each of us then went around and discussed what we felt we brought to our community as individuals and our answers varied greatly. Morals and empathy played a huge role in the direction of our answers. Some people answered suggesting they bring a certain set of emotional characteristics that make them a good citizen, one said her faith controls her action and ultimately her behavior, while others simply stated their interests or skills as defining factors.
We talked much about the community we were raised in and the one we’d like to live in as adults or create for our children. A common theme in our discussion at dinner and in our class was empathy. Everyone around the table felt the world had turned cold and natural, genuine, kindness was a dying trait. Our discussion brought me back to the class reading, “Empathy Exams”, in which a woman was an actress that tested the empathy factor of those in medical school. The reading showed an example of learning and developing empathy through verbal practice, making a questionable statement about whether empathy can actually be taught. The ladies in my group came from very different backgrounds, but all said they felt a lack of empathy in their community.
I learned how their claimed lack of empathy in the world can be found in and felt through “the little things”. They argued, sure, you can teach someone the right words to pretend they have an ounce of empathy, but empathy is more than words, it’s in your soul. Empathy is holding your neighbor as she sobs because her husband has passed. Empathy is helping the little boy who is worried sick about his dog that ran away. Empathy is helping the old woman carry in all her groceries from the car because she’s too frail to do it alone. Empathy is in your actions, not your words. It’s found in your interactions, the intentional and heartfelt conversations. It’s not in a dry, monotoned, “I’m sorry, that must be hard” that is too often practiced by those who want to seem empathetic but lack the natural grace to do so.
In regard to the first question, Margee lead the discussion and the others followed with definite agreement without much expansion to her answer. Margee stated, to her citizenship means basing your actions and decisions around working towards a better world than the one that existed before you were born. She believes it is our duty as world citizens to create an improved community through loving your neighbor, doing good for the sake of spreading the good, and living selflessly. This guided our conversation into the group feeling it is a citizen’s job and utter responsibility to care for others, especially your neighbors, despite differences that have created issues within our world on many occurrences. I believe this question allowed for an eye-opening experience for ladies of differing faiths. It warmed my heart to be able to share commonalities between loving others and doing good in the world with those that felt atheists or anyone without religious practices may not maintain similar values.
Our conversation about making the world better for future generations tied in to our class discussions during our wicked problem case study of the environment. The table acknowledged the impact corporations have in determining the health of our world ecosystems, but felt it is a group effort to truly make a difference. Izzy proposed legal action in hopes of preventing large businesses from getting away with environmentally harmful practices, while Claire discussed the impact of every average person making minor changes within their daily lives. Claire’s argument reminded me of, “The Energy Diet”, and Kylee, having read the article, supported the idea from the start.
After conducting a Kentucky Kitchen Table of my own, I have reflected mostly about perspective. As a person, I try to gear my interactions and responses to others around similarities and differences between our perspectives because I feel that it makes me a kinder, more understanding person. With each day my faith in this practice is enhanced, because I often see perspectives being the root of problems or the reason a problem is absent. I think, as the ladies learned through a thorough discussion of our beliefs and values through citizenship, it is extremely important to try to understand another’s point of view to the best of your ability before making judgements, especially in today’s world divided by differences. Alternatively, it is extremely important to note that even when you try your best to understand, it is quite literally impossible to feel and think the exact things and experiences as another human. I was filled with a sense of peace and humility when I say this applied to topics of religion and politics and was encouraged by the respectful and thoughtful interactions I was able to experience.
My Kentucky’s Kitchen Table took place on April 6, 2019, in a small town called Adairville, Kentucky. I was planning on hosting at my house in Louisville, Kentucky, but due to last-minute changes, my mom and I decided to host at her cousin’s house. There was a total of 6 people at dinner, including myself. Starting on the left is my mom, Jennifer, who was born and raised in Louisville, Kentucky. She is very involved in our local parish, and she owns our family’s bakery with three of her other cousins. Third from the right is William, who married my cousin, Natalie, and so kindly let us use his kitchen for dinner. He apologized for not being as good of a host as his wife is (she and her daughter were in Louisville that night), but my mom and I both thought he didn’t give himself as much credit has he deserved. He graduated from Western Kentucky University, lived and worked in Louisville for a few years, and now that his parents are getting older, he and his family moved back to Adairville to assist his aging parents in running the family farm. To the left of William is his father, Jim. Jim grew up outside of Bowling Green and graduated from the University of Kentucky. Martha, his wife, is sitting to the right of William, and she too graduated from the University of Kentucky. After graduating college, they settled down in rural Kentucky to start a family and farm their land. I had never met either of William’s parents before this trip, and my mom met them once at Natalie and William’s wedding. At the far right of the table is Natalie and William’s son, Mason, who is 9 years old. I used to babysit Mason and his sister, Hadley, quite often when they lived on my street, but I haven’t seen them much since I started college, and he was very excited to tell me about the piglet he would be raising this spring.
After everyone had made their plate of pork, salad, beans, and mac and cheese, I asked the question, “beyond voting, paying taxes, and following laws, what does citizenship mean to you?” After a couple seconds of silence, Martha said that she thought it was giving back to the community in any way you can. Jim agreed with her, adding that helping the people in your community makes a good citizen. William said by living your life in a way that brings something good to the people around you and the town or city you live in will bring about good citizenship. He emphasized how working a job is something that would make someone a good citizen, simply because they are giving their time and energy to accomplish something that our society has deemed important. My mom said that volunteering your time to the organizations you choose to get involved in will enrich the places you live in and help a person feel more connected to the place where they live and the people they live with – thus bringing about a sense of belonging and citizenship. As she said this I thought about how involved she is at my parish and grade school – she was the athletic director for multiple years while I was attending school there, and although it was unpaid and took up a lot of her time, she kept returning because she cared about the program and wanted to use her talents in ways that could benefit that specific community. She also mentioned that by getting involved, you can help turn your community into the kind of place you want to live. I thought this related back to one of our key questions in class: how do we have more of a say over our lives, and help others have more of a say over their lives? Simply put, the more involved you are in your community, the more likely you are to make changes that will impact your life in the ways you want it to.
After asking the initial question, I wanted to know more about life in rural Kentucky versus life in Louisville, and how that may affect someone’s perspective on citizenship. I began by asking how well everyone knew their neighbors. Jim and Martha have lived in their house for about 50 years, so they know all of their neighbors very well, and even though William moved away for a few years, he too knew everyone who lived near them. They all knew everyone who lived on their street, who they were related to, how long they lived there, what kind of crops they grow, where their children moved away to, and many more details that I don’t know about my neighbors at home, even though I live much closer in proximity to my neighbors. William said that for him, the strangest thing about coming back home after living away for so long was that there were many people who he grew up with who did the same thing – left for a while and came back home. He said it felt good to come back and be building a life and a family in the place where he already has roots. One of the things Jim said that stood out to me about neighbors was how he felt comfortable asking any of his neighbors for help with the farm or to borrow a piece of equipment he may need; however, with the increase in big farmers and the decrease in small family farms, he said the good farmers are a lot harder to come by now than they used to be. Many people are selling their land to large farming corporations because their children do not want to come back to take over the farm. Even so, Martha said that there are about 10 houses on their street belonging to only 4 different families – meaning that although times are changing, many people still do value family land and want to come back to continue on their traditions.
I learned a lot from this experience. It was interesting
to see how similar we all are even though we live very different lives. All of
us cared about and felt deeply connected to the places we live and work, and everyone
recognizes the value in giving time and talent to our communities. It relates
to Love Thy Neighbor by Peter Mass,
because he too found similarities in the most different of people – from America
to Bosnia, from people at peace to people at war. He showed that being human
involves wanting to belong and feel needed, and when we are active citizens, we
accomplish these basic needs.
the cold, rainy day of April 4th, I along with a fellow Honors Student,
Sophie, sat down around a table with mutual acquaintances living in the Bowling
Green area for a traditional Kentucky kitchen table dinner. Inside the college
house located on Chestnut Street we devoured cheesy pizza, salty chips, and cold
soft drinks and discussed what citizenship meant to us in individual and
communal terms. Our guest list was comprised of WKU students with varying
geographical, political, social, and economic backgrounds. First on the guest
list was Harper. Harper is a highly involved sophomore on WKU’s campus from
rural eastern Kentucky. She identifies herself as a liberal democrat. She finds
most of her interests lie in politics and legal processes. Next, we have Kaitlyn.
Kaitlyn is a junior student at WKU that is from the western Kentucky area. She is
heavily involved within her greek organization. She describes herself as
someone who does not know a lot about political affairs but would consider herself
as a liberal democrat. Her friend, Hayley, was also in attendance. Hayley is
from the same small town as Kaitlyn. Hayley is a transfer student that is not
greek and comes from a strict, religious household and recognizes herself as
someone with republican leanings. Our last guest being Ashton. Ashton is a senior
at WKU. She is from Owen County, Kentucky. She describes herself as huge animal
lover and someone who has great interests in racial equality and votes primarily
for the republican party.
To begin our night, we started our
discussion with the question “Beyond voting, paying taxes, and following laws,
what does citizenship mean to you?”. Harper responded, “Helping your fellow man”.
Hayley agreed with Harper by stating, “I agree with Harper, it just about
fostering the spirt of community and helping out one another”. The rest of the
group agreed, with Ashton adding, “It is about being supportive of your fellow
neighbors”. These statements were the vehicle for our conversations for the entirety
of the evening. Prior to our dinner, the consensus among the girls was that
they had never considered what citizenship meant. Oddly, though, as we chatted
away eating greasy pizza I found that all of them had a stake in politics and
were exemplary citizens. Accompanied
with my realization I uncovered that their passions on citizenship resided with
the matters that were attached to their empathetic feelings.
The article The Baby in the Well written by Paul Bloom was presented in our Honors
course. This article provided substance to our class discussions on empathy’s relationship
to our community. Bloom’s analysis of empathy provided highlights on the dialogue
on the inner role of empathy and its significances in our modern society. Specifically,
Bloom looks at what causes us to have more empathetic feelings on particular subjects
weighed against other subjects. He uses multiple cases to support his examination
of empathy. For example, he looks at Baby Jessica, the 18-month year old that
fell down a narrow well in Texas during the 80s, and a plethora of other cases,
for instance the disappearance of Natalee Holloway, to distinguish what generates
the human feeling of empathy. He concludes that “The key to
engaging empathy is what has been called “the identifiable victim effect.”” (PG
3). In essence, he argues that when we can identify a specific victim, we can
better connect with their story and have empathy.
As we chatted away through the
night I kept finding myself referencing Bloom’s argument. Case in point, Hayley
was heavily empathetic about the cost of healthcare and as a result I found
that in any of our discussions about our community she referenced the personal
struggles her family had with affording the costly treatment of her mother’s
diabetes. She had an identifiable victim and as a result she could find a deep,
empathetic connection. By fostering empathy on a particular subject, she was
more willing to speak on the issue as a citizen and bring awareness to the community
around her, overall a more civically engaged citizen.
This theme of empathy’s relationship
with citizenship was sewed throughout the night’s conversations. When the discussion
of racial equality was brought to our dinner table. Ashton referenced the
multiple service trips she had made with her church and how that brought
awareness to the differences of social, political, and economic treatment that members
of different races experienced. All of us listened intently to each other as we
individually spoke on racial equality. Soon, after a quick glance at the clock
and empty potato chip bowls, I realized we had spent a large portion of our
dinner openly deliberating on race relations within our community.
After our dinner, Harper, noted that
she was exceptional fond of our dinner as she can rarely find the time in her strenuous
student schedule to have such in depth conversations on issues, like race, that
she sees within her community with her peers. This dinner was a unique
opportunity for myself and the other members of our dinner to express our
deeply held convictions on the relationship of oneself and citizenship.
From an outside perspective, I could
identify that the household dynamic between our dinner participants was highly civic.
Their house entertained daily, assigned chores, all roommates had sincere
relationships with each other, were cognizant on each other’s life happenings,
and generally the house fostered an inclusive and effectual environment of
living. There consensus on the role of citizenship allowed for such a highly
civic household. By analyzing the nature of their home, I was able to uncover
that by living in such a highly civic home that they were better able to understand
the viewpoints of others. Furthermore, understanding the context of their answers
I better understood why they viewed citizenship the way they did.
As our cheese pizza began to congeal
and our sodas became flat we concluded our dinner. After reflection on the
night I shared my finding with two of the dinner participants, Harper and Kaitlyn,
and explained to them my take on our dinner. We agreed that it was refreshing
to see such a variation of mindsets and viewpoints. We also agreed that talking
about these issues in such an informal environment allowed for respectful conversations
that made us feel better about the future. Who would have ever thought insightful
conversations were hidden underneath pizzas and kitchen tables?
My Kentucky Kitchen Table was held in Bowling Green, KY on April 11, 2019. Elizabeth, the host, graciously offered up her home for me and other students and prepared a meal for us. Elizabeth is a professor at Western Kentucky University for Honors 251 and religion classes. Another guest at the table was also a professor at WKU but is in the history department. Her name was Jennifer and she was born in Canada. Another guest at the kitchen table was a graduate student whose faculty mentor was Elizabeth. She is from southeastern Kentucky but will be going to New York for graduate school. Autumn, a peer from my Honors 251 class, is a freshman from northcentral Kentucky and is studying Chinese. Another peer at the table was Shelby who is a freshman from southcentral Kentucky and is studying biology. The last but not least guest at the table is Victoria, who is Elizabeth’s daughter.
At the Kentucky Kitchen Table, since we were all strangers, we first introduced each other and tried to get to know where people were from and learn their background a little bit better. We talked about our hometowns and our respective family dynamics. With that, we discussed how family meals usually went. The graduate student talked that her family meals use to be more chaotic and the dinner table seemed to be a somewhat hostile area when she was younger. Contrastingly, she noticed how much more relaxing and peaceful the dinner table was as she got older and would go back home from college. Throughout the dinner, we also talked about the state of the university’s leadership. At the time, a dean of the university had resigned, and students did not take too fondly of the resignation. They wanted answers from the school as to why he had resigned. Jennifer talked about how proud she was of the students and faculty both for the way they reacted to the changes. She was proud of how the students approached the issue and only wanted answers, not making any accusations. She was also proud of how faculty was willing to voice their opinion and cared enough about the running of the university to participate in discussion. The discussion then moved to talking about citizenship. Everyone went around and talked about what they thought citizenship was in their own mind, or at least part of what a citizen is. One overall theme we discussed was how not to be pessimistic to the world. Everyone was unmotivated to speak positively (maybe because of the situation at school?) but also from the other things they all had witnessed and noticed from experience.
During the conversation, Jennifer asked me what I had learned or had taken away from the honors class that I am doing this assignment for. I answered saying one thing that stuck out to me was my thoughts on supervised drug addict facilities. I really had not given the idea of allowing addicts the space to use but also be monitored while using to make sure the person is taken care of. She was very surprised that the class had impacted me like that. Well, honestly more impressed and thankful for me to think that deeply. I really wasn’t sure if she was surprised because of my age or where I grew up. Either way, it somewhat made me skeptical as to how the older educated people view the younger generation. Through the conversation, I also learned how helpful the faculty of WKU have been to the students, especially the dean earlier mentioned. The graduate student was funded to go on a trip by the dean and another faculty member out of their pocket. It was cool to see how invested some of the faculty members are with their students and I was given a great example right in front of me. Furthermore, I learned about some of the struggles that the graduate student faced when she was younger and to see how successful she became. One big idea I took from it was when we actually discussed what being a citizen looks like. To give a slight preview of everyone’s responses, Jennifer said that being a citizen was that they should actively partake in community issues, just as the student body did with the leadership change at the university. The graduate student answered off my response saying that a citizen should learn the problems of the community and then use that information to approach those problems that a community has. In turn, my response was that citizens should be informed about their community and area before trying to participate in the community, because being educated is important. Autumn emphasized the importance of compassion in a community and toward the neighbors and fellow citizens. Shelby thought being a good citizen should be being a good neighbor. Also, Victoria thought that being a good citizen is about being kind to each other, but especially fair to each other. This was a very good point as that many times people aren’t treated fairly because of many things they can’t control. All of these are good things of a citizen but as I went back and reflected, I noticed that being a good citizen isn’t just that citizens “should” do those things but that they actually do the things mentioned. Citizens need to feel more responsibility instead of social laziness as they think others are responsible for the community.
The discussion related to the class as it related to the “Green Fire, the Still Point, and an Oak Grove” reading. We talked about how it is important to be informed and to know the history of a community which directly relates to that reading. As a central idea, one of our central questions comes to mind: How can we solve problems? As we discussed, it is important to have conversations just as the WKU staff and students had with each other when it comes to complex problems. Also, through talking about citizenship, the other questions are involved as well, such as “How can we live better together” and “How can we have more of a say over our lives?” Being a good citizen involved being compassionate and fair to each other, which would lead to citizens living better together. Also, being a good citizen would hopefully empower the people to know they have a role in society. Back to the university example, the students and staff came together and had more of a say over their lives. Being a better citizen is about being better people. The Kentucky Kitchen Table was an event that allowed diverse people to come together and discuss topics that usually aren’t formally discussed. Through that, I was able to learn different perspectives and had to think of my own responses, leading to self-reflection. The Kentucky Kitchen Table was a gathering that fostered good discussion that desired to increase the potential citizenship of those involved.
My Kentucky Kitchen Table Project took place in my hometown of Scottsville, Kentucky on March 31st. Around the table in the Make America Great Again hat is my brother Brandon. He works at a factory and considers himself to be very conservative. The next one is my mother Lorinda who also works at the same factory Brandon does, and she considers herself to be a very neutral person on all political aspects. She also does not like politics at all. One of the quotes I remember her saying as a kid about politicians was that “if they don’t come into office as a crook, they will leave as one.” This is still the mindset the majority of my family still has today. The next person in the picture is my dad, Frank. He owns his own construction business and has been working since the age of fourteen. My dad is also very conservative and a huge trump supporter like my brother. The man on the far left is Freddie, he is one of my dad’s business partners, and he is extremely liberal with his political views. And behind the camera is me, Derek, I am a biology pre-medical student. I have lived in Scottsville my whole life, just like everyone else at the table except my dad, who used to live in Pikeville, KY. And I consider myself to be a moderate democrat. So as you can tell, this is a very diverse group with extremely different views, but somehow we all get along incredibly well.
The first question I asked was
“Beyond voting, paying taxes, and following laws, what does citizenship
mean to you?” Brandon said to him it meant being there for his fellow
neighbors. Frank and Lorinda both had similar views in that they both said
citizenship to them is everyone in society contributing in some way. Freddie
believed that to him it is everyone helping each other out to the best of their
ability. To me, citizenship means taking that extra initiative to turn the
place where you live into the society that you want it to be. For example, if
you’re walking through the park and you see trash, instead of complaining about
how trashy the park looks, and you took the initiative to pick it up then it
wouldn’t look trashy anymore. I really do believe in being the change you want
to see in the world.
We also talked about a lot about
current events today and how different life is now compared to when each person
grew up. I asked the question, “Do you know your neighbors? Why or why
not?” And Freddie said he doesn’t anymore because both of his neighbors
are really young families who do not really value social connections as much as
he does. He believes it’s because of the mass technology today and that many
people lose valuable social skills and no longer try to make an effort to get
know anyone. He compared his life now to his life growing up as a child and
states that back in that time era, it would just be extremely odd to not know
every one of your neighbors and their kids extremely well. He also believes
that people used to treat each other better with more respect than people do
nowadays. My mom and Dad both agreed. So it led me to ask the question of why
they think people used to respect each other more in the past, and they all
agreed that it is the lack of parenting that parents provide their children.
Another thing we talked about was
the advice that we would give to people running for office in our country.
Frank said they should be more like Donald Trump in the sense that he is
completely transparent and you know where he stands on every issue. Brandon,
Freddie, and Lorinda all think they need to appeal to the biggest class in
America, the middle class, instead of just focusing on the top 1% or only the
extremely poor class. I honestly think that future politicians should stay true
to their beliefs, instead of worrying about pleasing everyone or worrying about
getting elected because if you’re true to your beliefs and you do get elected
then I personally think it will a much more effective and enjoyable experience.
I learned that no matter what your
viewpoints are or your beliefs everyone can still get along. I learned a lot
about my dad and where he was coming from because before I would get frustrated
and wouldn’t want to listen to what he had to say, but this project really
allowed me to understand where his viewpoints stemmed from. My dad started
working when he was 14, he grew up poor, and really learned the value of a
dollar. Because of this, he doesn’t believe in giving people free things. He
believes that they should work hard to get out of whatever situation they’re
in, just like he did. My mom also grew up poor, and she has the same viewpoints
as he does. Their viewpoints really opened up my eyes because for the first
time I really understood where they were coming from, I just really wished I
would have asked them sooner.
This project relates to what we
learn in class by the type of discussion we had at the table. When doing this
project, we talked about things that most of the time do not come up in
everyday situations and because of this sometimes we are really bad about
discussing things with people who have different opinions than our own. That’s
why I really liked doing this project. It really makes you sit down and have a
nice conversation about things that affect us in everyday life. One of the
central ideas in our class is how can we have more of say over our lives and contribute
to how others can have more of a say over theirs, and this is exactly how we
can achieve that. We achieve this by asking the hard questions and trying to
find possible solutions to make the problem better. In the Righteous Mind
chapter by Jonathan Haidt he talks about how our elephant, or emotions, are in
control and our rider, or logic is used to justify the actions of our emotions.
Personally, I think this concept is huge in terms of future political debates,
future deliberations, and future discussions because it’s basically stating
that it doesn’t matter if you’re throwing facts at people, if you’re not
appealing to their emotions, then the conversation probably isn’t going to go